Should a man be responsible for maintaining the lifestyle of a woman who doesn't want to be married to him anymore?
That's the question I found myself asking as I read a brief excerpt about a request from Nas' soon to be ex Kelis.
Kelis (KA'lees) says in a court filing that she wants soon-to-be ex-husband Nas (NAHZ) to pay for tens of thousands of dollars in baby supplies.
Kelis Rogers is scheduled to deliver the former couple's first child next month. She is seeking $20,000 to buy strollers, cribs and other baby supplies for homes in Los Angeles and New York.
She is also seeking money to pay for a baby nurse, nanny and other staff. Her filing states she didn't work much in 2008 and is reliant on Nas, whose real name is Nasir Jones, to maintain her lifestyle and care for the child. Associated Press
We can debate all day about whether she need's $20k for strollers and stuff. But if you ask me, it sounds like those aren't the wheels she's looking to buy with old boys money. I mean, how else will she be able to fully enjoy the homes in LA and New York! In addition to that, she wants dude to cough up money for a nanny and other staff AND help maintain HER lifestyle. I don't know about you, but that sounds like wife treatment to me, NOT ex-wife.
I hope Nas either has a great lawyer or gets a kind judge, cause it looks like dude will be needing to put out another album if Kelis has her way. I wonder if he'll decide to remake Kanye West's Gold Digger after this ordeal.
For the record, I agree that he should take care of his child all day long, but I don't think he should be on the dole for someone who wants to leave, but that's just my opinion. What's yours?
The St. Louis Karrie B. (I think she was eating something.)
What about you, have you seen anyone that reminds you of another blogger?
I attempted to do a 1001 day goal setting task in 365 days some time ago and the 365 days have come and gone, so I thought I'd revisit my list. I found that I attempted most, completed some and left a few hanging. Nevertheless, the process enlightened me of a few things.
1. I don't do mundane tasks well. For the life of me, I can't stick to a workout routine. Maybe it is because I grew up relatively thin and just never worked out when I was growing up. I ran and played basketball back then, but now my knees can't take too much of that. In my opinion, lifting weights are a bore and after the initial energy boost, I hit a wall again after a few weeks. So, I'm trying to develop an active routine rather than trying to kill myself every few months because I haven't been consistent.
2. I need to sue Coca Cola. I've moved to Green Tea for flavor sake (I do drink more water) but I still crave those Cokes. I don't have one every day, but I usually want to. I would say I'm down to 2-3 a week compared with 2 a day when I started this quest. I'll get to zero eventually.
3. I need a writing challenge. When I wrote for Blogger's Delight, I did so because it was an exciting opportunity. I was fascinated with the other writers and I just wanted to prove to myself that I could do the doggone thing. As hindsight would have it, I realized I wasn't as good as I should have been on that project (I see so many mistakes I made). Yet, having a real project with a deadline made me hungry for the page. It made me heed the call to write.
When I try to write without deadlines, it is far too easy to let a story go by the wayside. Projects force me to dig in, and there is no tricking myself into making a pretend deadline. I can feel the tension and passion when it's real. I have finished two stories since being published in Blogger's Delight. One is stuck in editing (I have no deadline, so I haven't gotten around to completing the editing) and the other was accepted for an all male anthology which will be out later this year or early next year. More on that when the drop date approaches. Aside from those, I have a few stalled projects, one of which may see the light of day since it will be a challenge to write. Now, if I can just create an urgency to complete it, I'd be cooking with gas.
Things aren't all bad. I may struggle to write, but I realized that it was more to writing than getting published. Talent will only take you so far. Sooner or later you have to be willing to be taught a few things that you don't know you don't know because you aren't willing to listen to anyone. (I don't know who that was for, but you are free to apply it where you deem necessary.)
4. I come up with a ton of good business ideas and I'll either talk myself out of them or realize that the return on investment isn't as great as I anticipated. It's frustrating, but I guess it's like that for other visionaries as well.
5. I'm lazy, but a hard worker. This is the one insight that affects a lot surrounding my life. If something seems far off, I bemoan putting energy into it. If it's something I can see clearly, I'm all over it, with amazing intensity. I guess the real trick is changing the way I look at things, because time moves so much faster than we think.
I guess in the end I realized that I'm making slow changes. I always picture things happening faster than they do in reality, but as long as I have breath and take strides then I'm that much closer to reaching my goals. I guess I shouldn't have tried to re-invent the wheel. The 1001 day approach is more realistic.
Y'all know how I feel about money (don't make me go back to posting money posts to prove it). Alright, alright, I know, it's only interesting to us math geeks. Anywho, for all you types who like to be entertained, I got something to share with you that you shouldn't miss.
This Friday make sure you tune into UNBROKE on ABC 9pm EST
(set your DVR if you like to roll out on Friday nights).
Here are a couple of clips:
Rich Fitzgerald, Copyright 2009
Everytime you turn around, there is more bad news to be heard. Chrysler is closing local dealerships, foreclosures are still up, folks are still losing jobs, and on and on and on. But, I don't want to hear about any of that. I want you to tell me something good for a change. Anything! No matter how large or small, something certainly has happened good to you lately. Tell us about it.
I'll start. -- Yesterday I had the pleasure of going to see my twelve year old daughter perform in the 6th Grade Spring Concert. She played the drums during the final number. The amazing part is that I didn't know she could even play (neither did her mother). On top of that, she also knows how to read music now. I was so impressed. I am happy that she is making strides in areas I only dreamed about as a kid.
Now, it's your turn. Tell us something good.
We all go through weak moments
Times of indecision
Going left feels good
Going right is calling you home
You close your eyes and go left…
For the moment
It’s good
But you can’t enjoy it
Your conscience always goes for a TKO
At every turn
You are hit with thoughts of righteousness
The life you have been called to live
Your destiny
You dance around the issue
Holding on as long as you can bear the pain
Left punch
Right cross
Body Blow
The longer you fight
The more your eyes swell
Making it harder to see your way clear
You strain
Beaten, battered and bruised
The corner man is trying hard to heard
You can hear him
Just listen
